My mom used to cook for me everyday, but now she’s stopped and expects me to cook my own food. I’m talking about like roast beef, steak dinners, & cheeseburgers, dinner food. My mom never taught me how to cook and Idk how. I look online and use cook books and everything, but it always comes out horrible. My steaks are always raw on the inside, or burnt on the outside & she gets pissed. I almost burnt down the house the other day & the fire fighters came.
I have to spend my own money on fast food every day. When I ask her why she makes me cook myself, she tells me that all the of her friends kids cook themselves. She said it was normal for kids to make dinner themselves. I’m starving right now trying to cook a steak. I’m talking ages 14-15. I’m wondering how normal this is.
Would/do you make your 14-15 year old cook their own dinner? If they aren’t that old, if they were, would you?
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Quite honestly, you can’t expect something that was never taught. You teach your children how to act appropriately, and when to use manners; that’s when you expect them to be used.
The wisest choice for your mom at this point would be to teach you recipes maybe, or ask you to help out in the kitchen while making food. Forcing you to cook your own meals for YOURSELF only with the given that you could possibly starve is just wrong. As for incorrect cooking, it’s her job to help you with it if you can’t do it properly. It takes many attempts before someone can properly cook a decent meal; nobody’s born a professional chef, and not helping out just extends the time before you get the hang of it.
It’s unreasonable to ask a child (Or anyone for without experience) to begin cooking randomly without any help or instruction.
(P.S. – For cooking steak, if you’re getting burnt outsides, but raw insides, try using lower heat. Not only will allow the heat to slowly penetrate the inside, and cook it properly, but prevent the outside from burning/cooking too soon. When you’ve finished cooking it on the stovetop or even oven, wrap it partially in a bit of aluminum foil and leave it out for 3-7 minutes to allow the flavor and cooking process to round off.)
I think it perfectly normal to teach kids your age to participate in preparing food. I may not expect them to cook all their meals and only for themselves, but I would certainly expect them to make the meal for the whole family a few days a week (especially if mom works), or I would expect them to participate in making dinner with someone else every day of the week.
Maybe your mom is trying to make you understand that it’s hard work to make dinner and would like you to participate more often in helping out with the cooking/dinner prep.
i would teach my 14/15 year old to cook and i would have them do it often enough that they became capable at it. i think that does them a favor. i would not expect them to do it every day, and i would be with them when they cooked, setting the table or providing company, moral support, and someone to hold the fire extinguisher when needed.
i expect my younger kids 5-10 to be able to pour their own cereal or make a sandwich or something simple like that. of course i’ll often do it for them, but if i’m busy with something else they do it themselves.
No, I wouldn’t do that. I cook dinner for my children every night and will continue to do so as long as they live with me…I mean hey, my husband and I have to eat too.
However, I make one dinner and one dinner only. If my 13 year old or 8 year old don’t want to eat what I make, then it is up to them to find a suitable dinner for themselves. Usually a sandwich or can of raviolis or something easy.
I have a 14yo and a 15yo both know how to cook to some extent. But no I don’t expect them to cook dinner for themselves. Seeing as I am already cooking dinner for the rest of the family, it would be silly to make them make their own.
However, if I am busy and I’m not in the kitchen or I’m doing something else, they are more than able to make something for themself, I think it is good for kids and teenagers to have cooking skills and I think it’s important that they can cook to some extent, just because it will benefit them in the future as well as the present.
Of course! I didn’t have kids for nothing ya know! They make 5 course meals on a daily basis. They are 4, 2, and 1.
we prepare and cook as a family ..we have prep cooks the main cook and the dishwashers
Haha. Well my mother still cooks for me ( a 16 year old girl ) -and my 22 year old ( lazy ) brother
I guess it depends on the parent really. Some parents are really busy and just don’t have the time to cook for their children. Does your mum work ? Do you have younger sibs that need to be taken care of ? Being a parent takes up a lot of time.
You’re gunna have to learn to cook someday mate so why not start learning now ? Maybe ask her to help you. Do it together. Team work (Y) Then, one day, you can cook her a nice impressive meal
The thing is not to spoil them. You have to start making them do chores and start helping out the whole family. They are starting to get older and you should start by teaching them small recipes like rice or fruit salads or something. But also remember that they are just kids, they are still not ready to properly cook or take care for themselves. Give all your children turns cooking dinner (the older ones of course).
Well if you lived with me you would not want me to cook. Just ask my kids. I have plenty of snacks, lunch meats , fruits/vegetables and other things my kids could grab to eat when their hungry. Don’t get me wrong that’s not all they eat. I bring them out to eat evry day except three days. My parents come over to spend time with their grandchildren so they cook for the day. All I can cook is stuff on the grill,seafood and breakfast. It’s hard being a single dad. But i would never make my kids cook they would also not know how. tell your mom that you need help cooking. help her cook for you.
I’m not a parent, but I just had to answer! (I’m a college student who grew up without chores)
I love my parents. They didn’t give into this child-slavery mentality
. I am living at home until my school allows students to move into the dorm for the fall semester. I have on several occasions offered to cook pasta or something easy (I can’t cook worth a darn!) for the whole family, because my parents are doing me a favor by letting me stay here rent-free. They are doing me a favor because I am a graduate student-not a minor. I do my own laundry and buy my own clothes because I am an adult. You are a 15 year old, that’s a whole different story.
I hate it when parents only enforce something on their kids because all the other parents do it.
My mom never made me cook for myself. She also did my laundry until I moved out.
My mom’s policy is – as long as you are a good kid and not on drugs and going to school, she will provide what we need.
Once while I was at work I was talking to another co-worker about something that happened when my mom was washing my clothes. This customer came up out of nowhere and said "My kids wash all of their own clothes and cook for themselves." I wanted to say "I didn’t ask you, mind your own business!" but I could’ve been fired for mouthing off to a customer. I just told her that I am in college with a good GPA and a job, and my mom doesn’t mind and she said "that’s nice."
For some reason certain parents pride themselves on making their kids do everything. I think it’s so obstinate. I mean, you are a minor and it is their job to provide for you. You have high school all day I imagine (mine was 8am to 4pm). You have homework. You are probably familiar with teachers telling you "school is your job." Well it is!
If you were 25 and living with your parents, i could understand. But you’re 15 – still a minor.
Tell her just remember her kindness she is showing now when she is elderly and can do nothing for herself! If she didn’t take care of you, why should you take care of her?
I know I’ll do all I can for my parents, because they did all they could for me.
They will make their own lunches during the summer and sometimes breakfast (when none of them want the same thing) but my husband or I will have dinner prepared for them (they help so that we can teach them how to cook).
I would make my own dinner sometimes, because my mother had a very hard job and was super tried when she came home sometimes and she would not feel like cooking. It was always fine with me, my brother and my father because we all knew she was having a hard time. We would all just make what we wanted for ourselves. However, sometimes she would make dinner for us.
I don’t think it is big deal that your mother is making you cook your 15 and here in about 3 years you will be on your own and you are going to have to know how to feed yourself. Don’t worry you will get a hang on how to cook. Everyone sucks in the beginning.
Sorry, im not a parent (im 13 lol) but i do sometimes "help out" when cooking, and i can get things myself, like toast and cereal of course, but i am never forced to cook a meal for the family, if im asked to help by stirring something or turning on the oven then its a different story.
I think you should ask her to perhaps help you whilst you are cooking. not like "Mum! Can you help now!" Perhaps "Mum, am i doing this right?" So, its a good thing your learning to cook, but you shouldnt be forced to all the time, especially if she hasnt taught you how.
I think you are old enough to prepare breakfast, lunch, and snacks for yourself, and even a quick microwavable dinner here and there if your parents go out on a date. As for dinner everyday, you shouldn’t be expected to make your own meal, especially when you were never taught. I wouldn’t want a 14 or 15 year old using a grill anyway. It would however be reasonable for your mom to ask you to help with dinner, weather it’s set the table, clean up after, make a fruit salad, etc., but definitely not make a whole dinner for yourself on a regular basis. Cooking meals as a family is a great way to have quality time, help mom out, and learn how to cook, so if I were you I would offer to assist in the things you can in trade for her making dinner- so hey mom if I make the fruit salad and set the table, can you make the steaks for tonight, then your brother (if you have one) could jump and and say "I’ll clean up after dinner". Just talk to your mom about you pitching in with dinner, and that you can’t make yourself a whole meal. Also tell her how important it is to you to eat as a family and if everyone is making their own meal when they want it doesn’t work so well, so preparing the meal together will help everyone.
First of all, it’s not unreasonable to expect a teenager to make their own food up to the point of grilled cheese, pasta, etc. Also, my parents always had a rule that if you wanted something for dinner other than what they made, you’d have to make it yourself. But, you shouldn’t have to make all your own meals, all the time.
Actually, I suck at cooking even though my mom and brother and roommates have tried to teach me loads of times, so I mostly use those microwave dinners. They’re actually not too expensive, if you get the in-store brands they’re less than $2 each.